There is nothing wrong with fixing a broken relationship, but some ways of doing so are better than others. Well take a look at what you can do, and what you should avoid, to patch things up. Salvaging your current relationship, or getting back together will require a lot of effort. No matter what Hollywood likes to tell you, long-lasting relationships dont magically happen.
Before you even begin you have to ask yourself why you want it to be fixed? if you are doing it because you know "it will be different this time", then it may be a good idea to re-think your position
Many couples split because of one thing: distrust. Fixing a broken relationship requires honesty from this point forward. You have to be honest about who you are, who your mate is and what being together means to you. One point related to honesty is that you cant change other people. You can change yourself, but dont fool yourself thinking things will be better after you change your significant other.
Be careful that you dont lay it on too thick. You may want to show how enthusiastic you are about mending things, but be careful that you dont cross the line into overdoing it. Most people dont respond well to being overwhelmed, and are likely to pull back the more you push. Even if that isnt your intention, you have to think about how youre being perceived. Understand that no matter how much you want to fix things, it takes two people to make it work. If your ex isnt ready to mend things, you have to be ready to give them more time and space.
Now that you understand what to avoid, you will need an action plan before you can start fixing a broken relationship. Here are the three steps you need to take to set things right, and to keep them that way.
Identify: Before you can do anything, you need to know whats wrong. Take a look at the areas in your relationship that you would like to be better. This could be you, your mate, or the relationship itself. While you can only change yourself, being aware
Fix: Once you know where improvement is needed, its time to solve the problem. This may require any different number of approaches. Chances are you wont get it right the first time, but keep trying until you are able to resolve the issue thats putting a strain on your relationship.
Maintain: No relationship is perfect. Be on constant alert for potential problem spots and take care of them as soon as possible. It is much easier to fix things sooner rather than later. Things will always pop up that need your and your better halfs attention.
You can see that fixing a broken relationship may not always be the best thing to do, its never that easy, but if you want to do it, it is possible to be a happier couple. Just follow the tips mentioned above and you will see how good things can be.
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