Finding the best ways of handling relationship breakups is a skill no one wants to be able to perfect. In this case practice may make perfect but no on wants to endure the pain, confusion and humiliation once, let alone several times during their lives. The truth is though that most of us will go through it at least a couple of times. And though it sucks, having some idea of the best way to get through it may just help you keep yourself sane the next time it happens.
There is no pill, potion, or spell that will take the pain away. The one thing that will take the pain away is time, sorry, but thats the truth. But, that doesnt mean that there arent things that you can do that will help lessen the pain, or at least distract you from it for a little while. There are many things that can do that. Just make sure when you are struggling to find something to dull the pain a little that you dont fall into the trap of using destructive things because that will only cause more pain in the long run.
1. Give yourself a very limited time to wallow, I didnt say grieve, that will take as long as it takes. What Im talking about is the "dont get dressed, eat nothing but ice cream, and dont leave your house for a week" wallowing. That has to be a limited time offer. It can be up to a week, but thats it. Even though youll still be hurting after a week its time to get back out in the world and live your life. Before you move out of this stage though you should put away all the pictures and knick knacks that remind you of your ex. You probably shouldnt throw them away, you might want to some day, but wait until youre out of pain and youre sure you want to get rid of them. For now just stow them away in the basement or attic, out of sight.
2. Once youve gotten past the wallowing and youre in the Im alive, though barely stage spend as much time as possible doing things that are fun (or at least you used to think they were fun before this pain started). Spend as much time doing positive things with positive people as you can. It wont take away the pain but it may dull it for short periods of time and that can help enormously.
One word of caution: do not get involved with anyone sexually or romantically at this point. Youre not ready and youll either feel guilty afterward or youll hurt an innocent person. Just take some time to be on your own romantically until your truly ready to move on, and if you really loved your ex, that wont happen for a while.
Relationship breakups stink, sorry, but theres no polite way to say it. Just do what you can to move through the grieving stage as quickly and easily as possible and believe that some day you will meet someone wonderful, again.
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