Lets say a couple goes to a marriage counselor just after 12 months of marriage. Their first session was brimmed with tension, and they claimed to have fallen out of love with each other. The wife complains: "You hardly ever tell me that you love me!" while the husband exclaims "Of course I love you, but I shouldnt have to tell you that I love you every waking moment - I do loving things for you. My actions speak louder than words ever could."
The couple might be having big relationship issues and it has certainly crossed their minds to just give up on each other and their marriage by simply getting a divorce. But they still want to work things out and make their relationship work. That is the reason why they went to a marriage counselor in the first place, but sometimes, no matter
how hard any couple would really want to make their relationship work and go back to the way they were before, they still end up separated or divorced.
Did the couple fall out of love? No. Their love styles were merely out of sync and are causing insufferable tension. It is not uncommon for one partner to feel loving toward his or her partner while the other feels unloved. More often than not, its not because their love has withered, it has simply taken on a style that is not meeting the partners needs.
Most women equate love with showers of affection, gifts, touching, tenderness - all of which makes some men feel uncomfortable just because they didnt fit into their own perception of love. Most men express love by avoiding arguments, fixing broken appliances, listening and bringing home a paycheck to his family. A lot of men want companionable love while women crave for romantic love. Some needed a deeper sense of bonding and certainty while others long for more sensuality.
Dont just assume that how you love is how your partner wants to be loved. The phrase "I love you" can mean different things to everyone. Learn to adapt to how your partner perceives love because everyone gives and receives love differently.
Did the couple fall out of love? No. Their love styles were merely out of sync and are causing insufferable tension. It is not uncommon for one partner to feel loving toward his or her partner while the other feels unloved. More often than not, its not because their love has withered, it has simply taken on a style that is not meeting the partners needs.
Most women equate love with showers of affection, gifts, touching, tenderness - all of which makes some men feel uncomfortable just because they didnt fit into their own perception of love. Most men express love by avoiding arguments, fixing broken appliances, listening and bringing home a paycheck to his family. A lot of men want companionable love while women crave for romantic love. Some needed a deeper sense of bonding and certainty while others long for more sensuality.
Dont just assume that how you love is how your partner wants to be loved. The phrase "I love you" can mean different things to everyone. Learn to adapt to how your partner perceives love because everyone gives and receives love differently.
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