Get your Girlfriend Back

If youve ever wondered why your ex wont return your calls, or why she wont agree to meet up for old times sake, you could be approaching the whole situation subjectively. Youre acting on pure instinct and your feeling of guilt or remorse will not let you leave your ex alone. You keep calling and pestering her, justifying your actions as persistent, and she keeps running away.

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Before she changes her number for good, or moves out of the city, heed the following tips on how to get a girlfriend back before its too late.

1. Use Reverse Psychology

First, lets get one thing out of your system. Yes, women can be be complicated and they sometimes say what they dont mean. Now that you understand that clearly, lets look at it from another angle. What if she is messed up emotionally herself? She doesnt know which direction to take because youre hounding her and she is getting stifled. Try this one trick to handling a stubborn ex: give her space. If she cannot hear you explain your side, you will keep her guessing. Soon she will be wondering what youre thinking, and will probably wring her hands over your apparent apathy. Turning the tables on her will work, if used cleverly.

2. Flirt with her but keep your distance

If you look back on how you got her in the first place, you will realize that being needy is not the way to her heart. You can flirt with her, but keep the interaction open-ended. Make it clear that its still her choice whether or not to go out with you again. Also, make her realize that youre still the flirt that she met a long time ago. Treat her like you would a girl you want to woo, and not as the ex that you desperately want back.

3. Use Jealousy

This technique can be very powerful. She might claim she doesnt feel anything for you anymore, but once you trigger her jealousy, you will access her emotional treasure trove of old feelings for you once again. Note, however, that this method should be used with caution. Abusing it could kill your chances, and using it frivolously for your prides sake could lead to more harm than good.

While youre learning the various ways to get a girlfriend back, always remember your girl could be testing you. Your job is not to fall for the tests. Just dodge her questions, and dont let her goad you into telling her whether youre dating again or not. If she asks you to do small favors like take her laundry out, or buy stuff for her, just ignore her. The last thing you need right now is to get stuck in the friend zone, so heed this warning.

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Dealing With Break Up

When you are having trouble dealing with break up it is only natural. There is nothing to be ashamed of because everyone does. The important thing to do is to decide how you are going to dealing with break up.

You have two ways that you can go about dealing with break up :

==> The first is to let it tear you apart.
==> The second is to overcome it and become stronger because of it.

There is a saying that that whatever doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger but that all depends on your attitude and how you decide you will be dealing with break up.



This break up may have been the most devastating thing you have gone through but you don’t have to let it destroy you. What makes you a survivor is you deciding that this moment will not define you. A marriage ending in divorce or any type of relationship ending is difficult. If it was due to someone’s infidelity or an affair then you may have self-esteem issues that you need to get some counseling to help you through it. The same is especially true if there was abuse of any kind involved. If you were on either side of those issues, seek some help. Dealing with break up for any reason can cause some long-term problems if they aren’t dealt with soon.

When you are dealing with break up you want to be strong after you have gone through all of it. By deciding that you are going to come out a winner and stronger you are going to be helping yourself by giving yourself some positive focus and good goals to achieve. Don’t let this consume you. You have to be able to move on. Winning this is learning that there is life after this relationship and finding that life.

Also, don’t decide that you just want to survive, decide that you are going to THRIVE! Realize that your best days are ahead of you. Wake up each morning trying to focus on what good things can come on this day and try to be excited about what tomorrow holds. Focus on the good things that life has to offer. Life is over just because that relationship ended. You don’t have to lie to yourself and others. Believe that today is a gift and that you are fortunate because you have an unopened gift waiting for you just around the corner. Once you start believing that, you won’t have any more problems dealing with the breakup.

Breaking up is hard to do but it is only as devastating as you let it be. A nasty breakup doesn’t have to be the end of you. It can and will be a new beginning. The breakup of a relationship doesnt have to bring the breaking up of your life. If you build a new foundation from the ruins of this tough breakup, chances are that you will have no problem dealing with break up in the future.

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